I must first apologize that it’s been so long since I wrote. Life gets busy and starts going in every direction and you suddenly have a hard time grasping moments you can find solace in. So let me start back on the path to sanity…
These days things are a little crazy for me and more than likely, most of you as well. And how we deal with changes, positive or negative, and the things we do each day, our behaviors, are always subject to judgement. Sometimes most harshly by ourselves.
There are certainly lots of ways that people are viewed as “sinning”. The list is endless and truly all-encompassing. People consider it a sin to be everything from homosexual to being late for an organized dinner party, never being married or having children to getting a tattoo, denouncing organized religion to talking on your cell phone in a restaurant. I know that I am aware of my own “sins”. Some can be classified as biblical sins, some as possibly societal and some are sins that I consider to have been committed against my self. Frankly though, nothing can be deemed a “sin” without someone casting a judgement and declaring it so.
“We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
This resonates with me. Because when I read this it makes me think of how much more pressure many of us put on ourselves to be more perfect, perform higher, achieve more, be better. We need to be gentler with ourselves. Some of us are way too hard on ourselves.
I love those who judge me for all that I can do. I love what they see in me and help me to see in myself. I am always so appreciative of those who see what I have done and see it as real accomplishments, because to me, I’m just doing what I need to do. Have done what I need to do, sometimes with no more intention than just surviving. It always amazes and surprises me that people find strength in my actions. I love them for that. I need them for that.
No one stands in a position to look at others with anything but acceptance. This does not mean understanding, because they are entirely different. Who am I to judge anyone for different decisions than mine, doing things differently than I would or having different beliefs, feelings & thoughts than me. I sure as hell don’t have it figured out, so why would I think that I must have it right?
Let me leave with this final thought. The only judging we should be doing is positive. Decide that others are acting with good intentions, and love, and the desire for positive outcomes, even if it’s not your way. Stand in judgement of others by recognizing their powerful and positive acts for them when they can not see their own light.